“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser — in fees, expenses, and waste of time.”
Rachel Alexander, Esq., FOP*, CFT** is a Professional Divorce Mediator and Family Law Attorney, admitted to the Bar of New York, New Jersey and Maryland, With Thousands of Hours of Experience.
More Than Just Mediation—Centered Around Respect and Regard for Clients
Rachel’s extensive training in mediation and related disciplines, as well as her own experience of divorce, inspires her compassion for others. Her approach is shaped by humility, warmth and a commitment to humanize the legal process. She is truly on the side of her clients. Concentrating on mediation from the beginning of her legal career, Rachel participated in Cardozo’s highly acclaimed alternative dispute resolution curriculum. Her mediation training commenced with a year-long clinic, and continued with multiple mediation certification trainings in New York and New Jersey, advanced studies, workshops and conferences.
Informed by her studies at Columbia University School of Social Work, Rachel brings her knowledge of subjects including family systems, early childhood development, personality formation and disorders, and the effects of crisis and trauma to her practice.
The therapeutic and psychological elements of mediation are integral in working with families. As such, Rachel is an avid student of these complementary disciplines, completing a two-year certification training in Focusing Oriented Therapy from the International Focusing Institute.
Unique Approach to Mediation and Divorce
Founding the Alexander Mediation Group in 2008, Rachel approaches divorce by prioritizing the integrity and wellbeing of the individuals and families she serves.
Inherent Respect for clients. Even today divorce requires overcoming the societal preference of staying married. Not only does it take tremendous courage, it also evidences tremendous suffering. Divorce usually comes only after exhausting all other options. Divorcing people are in pain, and deserving of friendliness and support.
Clients are treated like invited guests. Being the expert does not relieve the professional of humanity and humility. Replacing formality with hospitality, Rachel’s goal is to restore participants’ integrity and control.
Legal procedure can feel threatening and overwhelming — this is another area that is simplified and right sized. Rachel’s approach is transparent and egalitarian. While conforming to legal requirements, she removes the rough edges and frightening bits, reducing legalities to the administrative necessities, and making that digestible as well.
Divorce as treated as a reorganization of a family, not a destruction of it. The family is supported in redefining itself in order to become a healthier unit.
The rights of the children, their developmental needs, and the unending obligations of parenting are all held in the highest regard.
Listening fully to clients and honoring what is occurring with them, both externally and internally, is central to how Rachel practices mediation. By respecting her clients’ experiences, priorities and values, she helps them tailor solutions that work for them.
A Commitment to You and Your Wellness – Free Monthly Support Group
Isolation is one of the most painful aspects of divorce. Its antidote is in the coming together with others where you can identify and belong. Support is fundamental. Alexander Mediation Group encourages people to explore and ultimately secure a variety of resources. For its part, AMG offers a free support group, running monthly for over 5 years.
Unable to locate such a group during her own divorce, and wishing to spare others the experience of this dearth by forming this support group.
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Background and Education:
- Benjamin Cardozo School of Law at Yeshiva University, Juris Doctor
- Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution, one-year mediation clinic, competitively selected;
- Co-founded ABA accredited Alternative Dispute Resolution Society;
- Co-created Introduction to Conflict Resolution program for children)
- Vanderbilt University School of Law in Nashville, TN (visiting student year three)
- Columbia University School of Social Work, course work and field placement
- The Actors Studio, MFA
- Barnard College of Columbia University, BA In English Literature, magna cum laude
- International Focusing Institute, Certification as Focusing Oriented Professional and Focusing Oriented Trainer
- Of counsel to Gruber Colabella Liuzza and Thompson (beginning June 2017)
- Member of the Bar (New York, New Jersey and Maryland)
- New York Certified mediator
- New Jersey Court approved family mediator and mentor
- International Focusing Institute, Certified (2017)
- The Center for Mediation Solutions, Director (beginning 2011)
- Northern New Jersey Focusing Trainers, member
- New York Metro Focusing, Planning Committee (Beginning 2017)
- Felt Sense Conference, Planning Committee (2019)
- Founding member of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators;
- Past Member of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation; and
- Past Member of Nominating Committee of the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators
* Focusing Oriented Professional
** Certified Focusing Trainer