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Divorce
Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul – Part 2
February 23, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Like attach and attack, mediate and meditate are another pair of closely related words. The delighted expression of people first…

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Communication
The Lies Divorcing People Tell … and What to Do About Them – Part 2
February 10, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Lies – What to Do About them If we agree to expect that our own bad behavior and that of…

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Divorce
Mediation Questions to Consider
January 6, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{7 minutes to read} Clients often ask what can they do to prepare for mediation. This article concerns itself with questions mediation candidates might use to prepare for mediation — not so much regarding collecting this receipt or that statement, but in a more comprehensive and holistic way —

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Divorce
Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul
December 18, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What is in a word? A lot, I think. Although a rose by any name may smell just as sweet, I find that when I frequently bump into and miswrite the same particular words, it may be alerting me to something.

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Divorce
Who Ya Gonna Call? The Mediator!
August 6, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Help Often people get stuck, flailing about for weeks or decades, trying to figure out what…

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Children
Best Practices for On-Line Mediation: Recommended Ground Rules
June 11, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Mediating Online requires some new guidelines to optimize participants’ experience and maintain the integrity of the mediation process.

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Communication
Mediating Your Divorce Online: From Home
May 28, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} The Challenges and Gifts of On-Line Divorce Mediation Mediating from Home Divorce is discomforting. Traversing divorce…

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Divorce
Relocating as Part of Divorce – Part 3
April 3, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} As promised, here we are with our third and final installment on relocation in divorce. The…

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Children
Your Marriage Story — Loving Your Kids by Mediating Your Divorce
February 26, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Mediation in the Hamptons
January 8, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Mediation is for everyone, from the most sophisticated families with the most complex finances to the…

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Children
Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
December 4, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} Words that Harm and Heal, Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to…

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Divorce
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 2
October 1, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} The current series of blogs is exploring three frequently asked questions regarding alimony. This article discusses…

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Divorce
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 1
September 15, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{8 minutes to read} Few words in the English language are as loathed as the word “alimony.” Perhaps bankruptcy and…

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Divorce
Five Myths of Mediation
April 17, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} There are 5 common misbeliefs about mediation that may be preventing divorcing people from accessing this…

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Divorce
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 3
February 12, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} “In heaven we have justice. Here on earth, we have law.” So said my Torts Professor,…

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Divorce
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 2
January 23, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:30 minutes to read} The Ramifications (and Rants) The conundrum: our legal system has two opposing principles. First: it encourages…

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Divorce
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 1
January 9, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} Not receiving the relief promised in your Judgment of Divorce (JOD)? Spouse still hasn’t paid the…

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Focusing
How Could You Do That? The Inner Critic Speaks, and This Time We’re Listening
November 28, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
“What were you thinking? Did you just say that? Out loud?” {8 minutes to read} That’s not a nice way…

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Divorce General Well-Being
Holiday First Aid for Hurt Hearts
November 14, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2 minutes to read} Divorce can reshape our holiday celebrations into something disordered, gloomy and sad. In the midst of…

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Divorce
Your Brain on Divorce
October 30, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} The brain, dear brain, lights up with luminous ideas and cradles our treasured memories. That organ-control…

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Focusing
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Standing and Walking
October 23, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the second of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…

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Focusing
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Sitting
October 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the first of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…

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Divorce
It’s Time for Another Paradigm Shift
September 18, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} We don’t necessarily need victims in order to be heroes. In divorce, it’s quite typical to…

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Divorce
The New Face of Zealous Advocacy: Teamwork
September 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:42 minutes to read} The new face of zealous advocacy could be teamwork. Teamwork! Background Recently, I served as counsel…

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Communication
Does Your Attorney Fit Your Particular Genotype? Part II
August 22, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:12 minutes to read} In my last blog , I looked at…

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Communication
Does Your Attorney Fit Your Particular Genotype? Part I
August 8, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:12 minutes to read} Lawyers are like organs. They come in all shapes and sizes and have a purpose. However,…

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Focusing
“Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
June 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} Part II picks up where we left off, providing the last three elements of how…

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Focusing
A 3-Minute Attunement (Reconnecting Within)
March 26, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2:30 minutes to read} 3-Minute Attunement Transcription Let’s begin by just slowing down. Finding a comfortable seat. Coming…

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Children
A Triumph for the Best Interests of the Child
February 26, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
The Overruling of Baures by the NJ Appellate Court {7:12 minutes to read} Relocation is among the most difficult family…

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Finance
If I Can Waive Alimony, Why Can’t I Waive Child Support?
February 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:45 minutes to read} If I can waive alimony, why can’t I waive child support? Fair question. Here’s why: Alimony…

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Divorce
The Focus Oriented Divorce Has Arrived
January 12, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2:30 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce the completion of my certification as a Focus Oriented Professional, and…

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Communication
Pathology Pointing: Why it Doesn’t Work in Divorce
December 5, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What is the difference between Pollyannaism and a Balanced Realism Approach? {4:36 minutes to read} Pathology Pointing Our western medical…

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Divorce
The “We Space”
October 24, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:12 minutes to read} The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship.…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?
October 11, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and Mediation
October 3, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:30 minutes to read} In some spiritual practices, a bell sounds several times a day calling the observant to prayer.…

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Divorce
Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered
September 7, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:06 minutes to read} Let’s lift the blind on blame. If blame had a whistle blower, what would he say?…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part III
August 15, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:42 minutes to read} Litigation and Power Imbalances DANGER! Safety is essential always, and certainly in mediation, where a degree…

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Divorce
Happy to Announce…
August 10, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:12 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce that on June 22, 2017, I became of counsel to the firm…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part II
July 26, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:42 minutes to read} In Part I of this series, we defined a power imbalance and how to spot it.…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part I
July 5, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:00 minutes to read} Certain relationships are problematic and challenging, whether in mediation or litigation. This article looks at one…

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Divorce
“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets Part 3
June 20, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:00 minutes to read} In Part 2, we discussed marital vs non-marital retirement assets and how some of those assets…

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Divorce
“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets – Part 2
June 8, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:00 minutes to read} Just because we determine a value for something does not mean we divide it! Often spouses…

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Divorce
“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets – Part 1
May 23, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2:48 minutes to read} “Hands off,” decries one spouse, “I worked for this, not you. Back off, you lazy sot!”…

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Mediation
Look Who is Coming to the Mediation Table
April 17, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:54 minutes to read} What happens when attorneys join clients in matrimonial mediation? It’s anyone’s guess! Generally, in my practice,…

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Divorce
Anger & Vitriol – and What to Do About Them in Divorce
April 3, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6:12 minutes to read) Yes, you’re mad as hell and you’re not gonna take it anymore! That’s what divorce is…

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Divorce
The Mediator Will See You Now…
March 14, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:18 minutes to read} Often, with the best intentions, clients prepare for mediation by trying to resolve as many things…

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Divorce
Is There Room For Other Professionals in Mediation?
February 13, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:18 minutes to read} People going through divorce often discover they need more help than they initially imagined. Not only…

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Divorce
How Do We Understand Family During Divorce?
January 17, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:18 minutes to read} How do we understand family in a way that’s useful during divorce? First, it’s helpful to…

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Divorce
What Are We Celebrating Here?
December 5, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:54 minutes to read} The holidays, now encroaching practically on back-to-school week, are here again. For many, ringing in the…

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Focusing
Curiosity: The Little Word that Could
November 22, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the…

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Divorce
What is a Family?
November 8, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:06 minutes to read} Recently, a mediation client exclaimed, “I want to stay married. I want us to still be…

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Divorce
It Takes 2, Baby!? Or, What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce?
September 20, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6:48 minutes to read} In New Jersey, divorce requires only one willing party. So what about the other party? The…

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Parenting
The Magic of the Winter Picnic
August 10, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{9:54 minutes to read} Divorce, Money and How to Insulate the Children One winter evening, when I was five,…

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Well-Being
Rachel “Andy Rooney” Alexander—An Op-Ed Blog
July 26, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:18 minutes to read} Why is everything so truncated and terrible these days? Why can’t we have something that works…

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Divorce
Divorce: Know When to Hold ‘Em, Know When to Fold ‘Em
July 12, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:36 minutes to read} Recently, a young man, Dave*, called the office, reeling from the discovery of his wife’s infidelity…

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Mediation
The Difference Between the Mediator, the Draftsman, and Bartleby the Scrivener
June 30, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{7:18 minutes to read} On occasion, clients enter mediation with a proposed property settlement agreement in hand—something they have put…

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Communication
Why People Divorce: The Breakdown That Precedes the Breakup
May 2, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:12 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator, I’m often asked: Why do people get divorced? What went wrong? Money…

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Mediation
Whose Side Are We On? The Same Side!
April 21, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:00 minutes to read} Not long ago, I heard something fairly remarkable in my mediation session. To set the scene…

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Finance
Alimony Ain’t Easy!
April 5, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{8:18 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator and family law attorney, I am often asked, “What’s the formula to…

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Parenting
Parental Alienation—Right Here on Earth
March 22, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Parental alienation occurs when one parent hinders or disrupts, even poisons the relationship between the child and the other (usually…

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Communication
Creating a Healthy Divorce Narrative for your Kids
March 9, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
There are a lot of recommendations about how to tell your children you are getting divorced. This article concentrates on…

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Divorce
The Dissipation of Marital Assets
February 17, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:31 minutes to read} Dissipation of marital assets is an important topic arising in matrimonial law and mediation. Towards the…

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