Dissipation Revisited
{6:36 minutes to read} Dissipation occurs when one spouse spends marital funds on something that has nothing to do with the marriage. It could be deliberately offshoring funds into a secret bank account in preparation for divorce. It could be spending marital money on a clandestine relationship such as an extra marital relationship. This last … Continue reading Dissipation Revisited
Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part I
{3 minutes to read} What’s wonderful about focusing is that it can disabuse us of the misconception that ‘going in’ (turning our attention inwardly) has to be going deep. Going inside can feel threatening in that it’s unfamiliar and intangible. If we go in, we might feel we cannot modulate how fast or far we … Continue reading Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part I
“Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
{5 minutes to read} Part II picks up where we left off, providing the last three elements of how going in — the focusing way — need not mean going painfully deep. 1. The Right Distance The focuser is in charge of the process. If something comes up that is painful or frightening, the focuser does … Continue reading “Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
Positive Psychology
Balance the pH of Your Psyche with Positive Psychology and Focusing Positive psychology tells us that it only takes a fraction of a second for something negative to imprint upon us (and usually stay with us ever after). Positive experiences, on the other hand, don’t automatically adhere. We have to deliberately attend to positive feelings, … Continue reading Positive Psychology
Why Open the Door? And Why Do You Still Have that Hideous Bedspread?
{6 minutes to read} Avoidance. Numbing. Most of us are adept at coping through these mechanisms also called (by me anyway) shoving junk into that third bedroom-turned-storage-room of our psyche, piling everything atop the hideous bedspread of the neglected spare bed. There is a visceral dread in even contemplating opening that door. Why, we might … Continue reading Why Open the Door? And Why Do You Still Have that Hideous Bedspread?
Inner Architecture — The Resource of Your Own Imagination
Transcript of Attunement Just taking a moment to find a comfortable place to sit or stand. In this attunement, we’re going to take a tour through our own inner self, our own body and all that it encompasses, as if we were architectural structures. As you settle into this space, slowing down, feel your sitz bones and … Continue reading Inner Architecture — The Resource of Your Own Imagination
A 3-Minute Attunement (Reconnecting Within)
{2:30 minutes to read} 3-Minute Attunement Transcription Let’s begin by just slowing down. Finding a comfortable seat. Coming to wherever you are, sitting quietly, and finding your way into your body. Let’s settle here. Just slowing down together. Taking a few breaths now together. We’re just going to have this space for a few moments … Continue reading A 3-Minute Attunement (Reconnecting Within)
A Triumph for the Best Interests of the Child
The Overruling of Baures by the NJ Appellate Court {7:12 minutes to read} Relocation is among the most difficult family law issues for families and courts. Relocation is when the parent with sole or primary residential custody chooses to move out of state with the children. The change in parenting roles and developments in attachment … Continue reading A Triumph for the Best Interests of the Child
What is an Attunement? (And is an Oil Change Included?)
{4:30 minutes to read} A focusing session usually begins with a “lead-in” or something called an “attunement.” An attunement, much like a guided meditation, is a way of bringing awareness into our body and our attention into the present moment. It is an invitation to resource into what is immediately available to us. This begins … Continue reading What is an Attunement? (And is an Oil Change Included?)
If I Can Waive Alimony, Why Can’t I Waive Child Support?
{5:45 minutes to read} If I can waive alimony, why can’t I waive child support? Fair question. Here’s why: Alimony and child support are two different things and are treated differently under the law. Alimony might be a right of a spouse, but child support is the right of a child. And just like I … Continue reading If I Can Waive Alimony, Why Can’t I Waive Child Support?
Many thanks for guiding my husband and I through a brutal time in our lives with dignity, respect and compassion. You freaking ROCK!
