Divorce Mediation Blog

Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving

{6:00 minutes to read} Don’t look now, but here comes Thanksgiving! When you are already in survival mode, a holiday can add insult to injury. If you are bracing for the holidays as a newly divorced family, maybe spending your first Thanksgiving without your kids or extended family, “celebrating” anything can seem absurd. Forced festivities … Continue reading Ungrateful and Pissed Off? A Curmudgeon’s Survival Guide for Thanksgiving

Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?

{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting present, so how do we do it? Practice, practice, practice!  And, softly, softly, softly. One suggestion: set an alarm on your smartphone to sound a gentle tone several times during the day.  When you hear … Continue reading Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?

To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part III

{3:42 minutes to read} Litigation and Power Imbalances DANGER! Safety is essential always, and certainly in mediation, where a degree of candor, contact and exchange are generally required. So, if the mediation environment is unsuitable, what then? Entering litigation is not necessarily the answer. Troubled relationships present issues in any forum, but litigation can exaggerate … Continue reading To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part III

To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part II

{3:42 minutes to read} In Part I of this series, we defined a power imbalance and how to spot it. We discussed two of six integral recommendations in working with it in divorce mediation. This article continues where we left off, exploring the other four. Third: Slow Down and Pay Attention In mediation, there must … Continue reading To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part II

To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part I

{4:00 minutes to read} Certain relationships are problematic and challenging, whether in mediation or litigation. This article looks at one particular challenge – power imbalances – and how they are managed in mediation vs. litigation. Many, if not all, relationships experience power imbalances at different times. In fact, power imbalances are one of the main … Continue reading To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part I

“Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets Part 3

{4:00 minutes to read} In Part 2, we discussed marital vs non-marital retirement assets and how some of those assets require an actuary or other expert to figure out the “present value” before the asset can be divided. We now arrive here: How do folks equitably divide these assets? Particularly because the present value doesn’t … Continue reading “Someday” and “Maybe” Numbers: The Challenge of Dividing Retirement Assets Part 3