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Divorcing but Still Living Together?
September 26, 2022 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
How can you live…

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Communication
A Couple Walked into a Marriage Counselor — The Problem
August 3, 2022 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Communication
The Good News About Infidelity — Part 3: The Future
June 12, 2022 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Communication
The Good News About Infidelity — Part 2: The Past
June 2, 2022 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Is This Marriage Viable?
March 16, 2022 - by Rachel Alexander
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Divorce
An Introduction to Divorce Mediation and Your Finances (Free Online Workshop)
April 23, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Hosted by Kelli Lanino, CDFA® , and…

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Communication
Conflict Unusual — A New Way Forward, Together
April 15, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
The Myth(?) of Monogamy
March 10, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul – Part 2
February 23, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Like attach and attack, mediate and meditate are another pair of closely related words. The delighted expression of people first…

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Communication
The Lies Divorcing People Tell … and What to Do About Them – Part 2
February 10, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Lies – What to Do About them If we agree to expect that our own bad behavior and that of…

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Communication
The Lies Divorcing People Tell … And What to Do About Them
January 27, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} Early conversations about divorce can be inflammatory and emotional. In fact, they often are not conversations…

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Divorce
Mediation Questions to Consider
January 6, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{7 minutes to read} Clients often ask what can they do to prepare for mediation. This article concerns itself with questions mediation candidates might use to prepare for mediation — not so much regarding collecting this receipt or that statement, but in a more comprehensive and holistic way —

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Divorce
Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul
December 18, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What is in a word? A lot, I think. Although a rose by any name may smell just as sweet, I find that when I frequently bump into and miswrite the same particular words, it may be alerting me to something.

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Divorce
Married or Divorced: Are There Any Other Options?
November 12, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} A dear friend of mine has a saying from his Irish grandfather: Married or not: you’ll…

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Divorce
Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part 4 of 4
November 3, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} Katherine Kirkinis, ED.M., M.A. of Wanderlust Careers, our friend and consultant on this series, routinely works…

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Divorce
Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part 3 of 4
October 15, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
The Brilliance of a…

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Divorce
Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part 2 of 4
October 1, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part I of 4
September 16, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} Reentering the workforce can be among the most daunting tasks arising out of a divorce. Typically…

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Divorce
A Murky Place
September 2, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Who Ya Gonna Call? The Mediator!
August 6, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Help Often people get stuck, flailing about for weeks or decades, trying to figure out what…

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Divorce
What Divorcing Couples Need to Know About Real Property – Part 2
July 22, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What Happens to Co-Owned Property Upon Divorce? What do Married/Divorcing People Need to Know? {3 minutes to read} Married people…

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Divorce
What Divorcing Couples Need to Know About Real Property
July 8, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} Whether married or divorcing in New York or New Jersey, couples are well advised to familiarize…

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Communication
Mediating Your Divorce Online: From Home
May 28, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} The Challenges and Gifts of On-Line Divorce Mediation Mediating from Home Divorce is discomforting. Traversing divorce…

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Communication
Mediating Your Divorce Online: Tackling Technology
May 20, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Communication
Mediating Your Divorce Online: A Good Option in this Time of Court Closures and Social Distancing
May 8, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} In the midst of the Covid crisis, what are divorcing couples — and would-be divorcing couples…

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Divorce
Relocating as Part of Divorce
March 4, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} A lot of people who divorce find that it requires relocation. Relocating with children is a…

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Children
Your Marriage Story — Loving Your Kids by Mediating Your Divorce
February 26, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Divorce
Mediation in the Hamptons Part 2
January 23, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Focus on Substance v Nonsense (bureaucratic rules, time lines, etc.) Mediation keeps people focused on what is important — their…

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Divorce
Mediation in the Hamptons
January 8, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Mediation is for everyone, from the most sophisticated families with the most complex finances to the…

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Communication
Trauma and Divorce: What Good Parents Need to Know (Part IV)
December 18, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Why is the topic of trauma important in divorce? Why is it important to parents? What…

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Children
Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
December 4, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} Words that Harm and Heal, Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to…

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Divorce
Preventing Trauma – A Guide (Part II)
November 18, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} Because trauma is painful, complex and difficult to resolve, what can we do to prevent it?…

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Divorce
What’s the Difference Between Hurt and Trauma? (Part I)
October 31, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} What’s the difference between hurt and trauma and why do divorcing parents need to know? Hurt…

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Divorce
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 2
October 1, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} The current series of blogs is exploring three frequently asked questions regarding alimony. This article discusses…

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Divorce
Are We as Modern as We Think? Gender Role Reversal in Divorce Doesn’t Necessarily Add Up.
September 5, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} What happens when the father is the stay-at-home spouse and the mother is the primary earner?…

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Divorce
To See or Not to See: Discovery in Mediation
August 21, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} In divorce mediation, there are some things that must never be cloaked in mystery or veiled…

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Communication
Children: Damage by Divorce Is Not Mandated — Part 2
August 7, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} Building on the recent blog series called Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make, this article turns…

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Children
Children: Damage by Divorce is Not Mandated
July 25, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:30 minutes to read} A good divorce from a bad marriage may actually be better for children when the alternative…

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Divorce
Divorce Mediation: Respect, Privacy, and Necessary Disclosure
July 9, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} As a mediator, there are subjects about which I would be remiss if I did not…

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Mediation
Mediating in Mystery
June 18, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} How much personal information does your mediator need? Privacy Versus Transparency Every marriage is comprised of…

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Divorce
Five Myths of Mediation
April 17, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} There are 5 common misbeliefs about mediation that may be preventing divorcing people from accessing this…

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Divorce
The New Face of Zealous Advocacy: Teamwork
September 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:42 minutes to read} The new face of zealous advocacy could be teamwork. Teamwork! Background Recently, I served as counsel…

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Divorce
Dissipation Revisited
July 16, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6:36 minutes to read} Dissipation occurs when one spouse spends marital funds on something that has nothing to do with…

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Children
A Triumph for the Best Interests of the Child
February 26, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
The Overruling of Baures by the NJ Appellate Court {7:12 minutes to read} Relocation is among the most difficult family…

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Divorce
The Focus Oriented Divorce Has Arrived
January 12, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2:30 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce the completion of my certification as a Focus Oriented Professional, and…

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Communication
Pathology Pointing: Why it Doesn’t Work in Divorce
December 5, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What is the difference between Pollyannaism and a Balanced Realism Approach? {4:36 minutes to read} Pathology Pointing Our western medical…

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Divorce
The “We Space”
October 24, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:12 minutes to read} The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship.…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?
October 11, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and Mediation
October 3, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:30 minutes to read} In some spiritual practices, a bell sounds several times a day calling the observant to prayer.…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part III
August 15, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:42 minutes to read} Litigation and Power Imbalances DANGER! Safety is essential always, and certainly in mediation, where a degree…

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Divorce
Happy to Announce…
August 10, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:12 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce that on June 22, 2017, I became of counsel to the firm…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part II
July 26, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:42 minutes to read} In Part I of this series, we defined a power imbalance and how to spot it.…

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Mediation
To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part I
July 5, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:00 minutes to read} Certain relationships are problematic and challenging, whether in mediation or litigation. This article looks at one…

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Mediation
Look Who is Coming to the Mediation Table
April 17, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:54 minutes to read} What happens when attorneys join clients in matrimonial mediation? It’s anyone’s guess! Generally, in my practice,…

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Divorce
The Mediator Will See You Now…
March 14, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:18 minutes to read} Often, with the best intentions, clients prepare for mediation by trying to resolve as many things…

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Children
Sundays, Bloody Sundays
March 1, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:42 minutes to read} Sundays are not known to be the bright spot of the week. Sundays, especially Sunday evenings,…

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Divorce
Is There Room For Other Professionals in Mediation?
February 13, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:18 minutes to read} People going through divorce often discover they need more help than they initially imagined. Not only…

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Divorce
Why Do People Get Divorced?
February 1, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6:12 minutes to read} First, it should be said, no one divorces lightly. No one has ever walked into my…

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Divorce
How Do We Understand Family During Divorce?
January 17, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:18 minutes to read} How do we understand family in a way that’s useful during divorce? First, it’s helpful to…

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Divorce
Are We There Yet? (Or How Long Does Divorce Mediation Take?)
January 3, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:00 minutes to read} How long is this going to take? When can we get this over with? When people…

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Divorce
What Are We Celebrating Here?
December 5, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:54 minutes to read} The holidays, now encroaching practically on back-to-school week, are here again. For many, ringing in the…

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Focusing
Curiosity: The Little Word that Could
November 22, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the…

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Divorce
What is a Family?
November 8, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:06 minutes to read} Recently, a mediation client exclaimed, “I want to stay married. I want us to still be…

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Divorce
It Takes 2, Baby!? Or, What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce?
September 20, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6:48 minutes to read} In New Jersey, divorce requires only one willing party. So what about the other party? The…

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Divorce
How to Save Money and Affirm Life by Mediating Your Divorce
August 25, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:24 minutes to read} No one wants to spend more money than absolutely necessary on their divorce. No one has…

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Divorce
Divorce: Know When to Hold ‘Em, Know When to Fold ‘Em
July 12, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:36 minutes to read} Recently, a young man, Dave*, called the office, reeling from the discovery of his wife’s infidelity…

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Mediation
The Difference Between the Mediator, the Draftsman, and Bartleby the Scrivener
June 30, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{7:18 minutes to read} On occasion, clients enter mediation with a proposed property settlement agreement in hand—something they have put…

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Whose Side Are We On? The Same Side!
April 21, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:00 minutes to read} Not long ago, I heard something fairly remarkable in my mediation session. To set the scene…

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Finance
Alimony Ain’t Easy!
April 5, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{8:18 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator and family law attorney, I am often asked, “What’s the formula to…

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Divorce
The Dissipation of Marital Assets
February 17, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:31 minutes to read} Dissipation of marital assets is an important topic arising in matrimonial law and mediation. Towards the…

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Mediation
Can A Divorce Mediator Help Couples Stay Together?
February 13, 2014 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
One of my goals as a mediator is to help people discern what is in their best interest – what…

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Mediation
Three Tips To An Effective Mediation
September 20, 2012 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
One of the benefits of mediation is that clients save money – a lot of money – compared to the…

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Finance
Three Tips To Save Money In Mediation
January 4, 2011 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
One of the benefits of mediation is that clients save money – a lot of money – compared to the…

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Divorce
The Alexander Group LLC – Mediation and Family Law
December 31, 2010 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
The purpose of this blog is to offer information and support to people going through, or contemplating divorce. Rachel Alexander,…

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