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Four Things No One Tells You About Divorce (and What You Need to Know Now) Part 3
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Four Things No One Tells You About Divorce (and What You Need to Know Now) Part 2
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Four Things No One Tells You About Divorce (and What You Need to Know Now) Part 1
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An Introduction to Divorce Mediation and Your Finances (Free Online Workshop)
-Hosted by Kelli Lanino, CDFA® , and…
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Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul – Part 2
-Like attach and attack, mediate and meditate are another pair of closely related words. The delighted expression of people first…
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The Lies Divorcing People Tell … And What to Do About Them
-{4 minutes to read} Early conversations about divorce can be inflammatory and emotional. In fact, they often are not conversations…
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Mediation Questions to Consider
-{7 minutes to read} Clients often ask what can they do to prepare for mediation. This article concerns itself with questions mediation candidates might use to prepare for mediation — not so much regarding collecting this receipt or that statement, but in a more comprehensive and holistic way —
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Alphabet Soup for the Relational Soul
-What is in a word? A lot, I think. Although a rose by any name may smell just as sweet, I find that when I frequently bump into and miswrite the same particular words, it may be alerting me to something.
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Married or Divorced: Are There Any Other Options?
-{6 minutes to read} A dear friend of mine has a saying from his Irish grandfather: Married or not: you’ll…
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Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part 4 of 4
-{5 minutes to read} Katherine Kirkinis, ED.M., M.A. of Wanderlust Careers, our friend and consultant on this series, routinely works…
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Re-Entering the Workforce Post Divorce Part I of 4
-{3 minutes to read} Reentering the workforce can be among the most daunting tasks arising out of a divorce. Typically…
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Who Ya Gonna Call? The Mediator!
-{6 minutes to read} Help Often people get stuck, flailing about for weeks or decades, trying to figure out what…
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What Divorcing Couples Need to Know About Real Property
-{5 minutes to read} Whether married or divorcing in New York or New Jersey, couples are well advised to familiarize…
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Mediating Your Divorce Online: From Home
-{6 minutes to read} The Challenges and Gifts of On-Line Divorce Mediation Mediating from Home Divorce is discomforting. Traversing divorce…
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Relocating as Part of Divorce
-{3 minutes to read} A lot of people who divorce find that it requires relocation. Relocating with children is a…
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Mediation in the Hamptons Part 2
-Focus on Substance v Nonsense (bureaucratic rules, time lines, etc.) Mediation keeps people focused on what is important — their…
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Mediation in the Hamptons
-{6 minutes to read} Mediation is for everyone, from the most sophisticated families with the most complex finances to the…
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Trauma and Divorce: What Good Parents Need to Know (Part IV)
-{6 minutes to read} Why is the topic of trauma important in divorce? Why is it important to parents? What…
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Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
-{3 minutes to read} Words that Harm and Heal, Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to…
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What’s the Difference Between Hurt and Trauma? (Part I)
-{4 minutes to read} What’s the difference between hurt and trauma and why do divorcing parents need to know? Hurt…
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Making Sense of Alimony — Question 2
-{3 minutes to read} The current series of blogs is exploring three frequently asked questions regarding alimony. This article discusses…
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Are We as Modern as We Think? Gender Role Reversal in Divorce Doesn’t Necessarily Add Up.
-{4 minutes to read} What happens when the father is the stay-at-home spouse and the mother is the primary earner?…
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To See or Not to See: Discovery in Mediation
-{6 minutes to read} In divorce mediation, there are some things that must never be cloaked in mystery or veiled…
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Children: Damage by Divorce Is Not Mandated — Part 2
-{4 minutes to read} Building on the recent blog series called Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make, this article turns…
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Children: Damage by Divorce is Not Mandated
-{3:30 minutes to read} A good divorce from a bad marriage may actually be better for children when the alternative…
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Divorce Mediation: Respect, Privacy, and Necessary Disclosure
-{5 minutes to read} As a mediator, there are subjects about which I would be remiss if I did not…
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Mediating in Mystery
-{3 minutes to read} How much personal information does your mediator need? Privacy Versus Transparency Every marriage is comprised of…
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Five Myths of Mediation
-{6 minutes to read} There are 5 common misbeliefs about mediation that may be preventing divorcing people from accessing this…
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The New Face of Zealous Advocacy: Teamwork
-{5:42 minutes to read} The new face of zealous advocacy could be teamwork. Teamwork! Background Recently, I served as counsel…
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Dissipation Revisited
-{6:36 minutes to read} Dissipation occurs when one spouse spends marital funds on something that has nothing to do with…
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A Triumph for the Best Interests of the Child
-The Overruling of Baures by the NJ Appellate Court {7:12 minutes to read} Relocation is among the most difficult family…
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The Focus Oriented Divorce Has Arrived
-{2:30 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce the completion of my certification as a Focus Oriented Professional, and…
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Pathology Pointing: Why it Doesn’t Work in Divorce
-What is the difference between Pollyannaism and a Balanced Realism Approach? {4:36 minutes to read} Pathology Pointing Our western medical…
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The “We Space”
-{4:12 minutes to read} The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship.…
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Mindfulness and Mediation
-{3:30 minutes to read} In some spiritual practices, a bell sounds several times a day calling the observant to prayer.…
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To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part III
-{3:42 minutes to read} Litigation and Power Imbalances DANGER! Safety is essential always, and certainly in mediation, where a degree…
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Happy to Announce…
-{3:12 minutes to read} I am pleased to announce that on June 22, 2017, I became of counsel to the firm…
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To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part II
-{3:42 minutes to read} In Part I of this series, we defined a power imbalance and how to spot it.…
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To Mediate or Not to Mediate: The Question of Power Imbalance, Part I
-{4:00 minutes to read} Certain relationships are problematic and challenging, whether in mediation or litigation. This article looks at one…
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Look Who is Coming to the Mediation Table
-{4:54 minutes to read} What happens when attorneys join clients in matrimonial mediation? It’s anyone’s guess! Generally, in my practice,…
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The Mediator Will See You Now…
-{4:18 minutes to read} Often, with the best intentions, clients prepare for mediation by trying to resolve as many things…
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Sundays, Bloody Sundays
-{4:42 minutes to read} Sundays are not known to be the bright spot of the week. Sundays, especially Sunday evenings,…
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Is There Room For Other Professionals in Mediation?
-{3:18 minutes to read} People going through divorce often discover they need more help than they initially imagined. Not only…
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Why Do People Get Divorced?
-{6:12 minutes to read} First, it should be said, no one divorces lightly. No one has ever walked into my…
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How Do We Understand Family During Divorce?
-{4:18 minutes to read} How do we understand family in a way that’s useful during divorce? First, it’s helpful to…
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Are We There Yet? (Or How Long Does Divorce Mediation Take?)
-{4:00 minutes to read} How long is this going to take? When can we get this over with? When people…
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What Are We Celebrating Here?
-{3:54 minutes to read} The holidays, now encroaching practically on back-to-school week, are here again. For many, ringing in the…
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Curiosity: The Little Word that Could
-{5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the…
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What is a Family?
-{4:06 minutes to read} Recently, a mediation client exclaimed, “I want to stay married. I want us to still be…
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It Takes 2, Baby!? Or, What Happens When Only One Person Wants the Divorce?
-{6:48 minutes to read} In New Jersey, divorce requires only one willing party. So what about the other party? The…
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How to Save Money and Affirm Life by Mediating Your Divorce
-{4:24 minutes to read} No one wants to spend more money than absolutely necessary on their divorce. No one has…
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Divorce: Know When to Hold ‘Em, Know When to Fold ‘Em
-{5:36 minutes to read} Recently, a young man, Dave*, called the office, reeling from the discovery of his wife’s infidelity…
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The Difference Between the Mediator, the Draftsman, and Bartleby the Scrivener
-{7:18 minutes to read} On occasion, clients enter mediation with a proposed property settlement agreement in hand—something they have put…
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Whose Side Are We On? The Same Side!
-{3:00 minutes to read} Not long ago, I heard something fairly remarkable in my mediation session. To set the scene…
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Alimony Ain’t Easy!
-{8:18 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator and family law attorney, I am often asked, “What’s the formula to…
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The Dissipation of Marital Assets
-{4:31 minutes to read} Dissipation of marital assets is an important topic arising in matrimonial law and mediation. Towards the…
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Can A Divorce Mediator Help Couples Stay Together?
-One of my goals as a mediator is to help people discern what is in their best interest – what…
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Three Tips To An Effective Mediation
-One of the benefits of mediation is that clients save money – a lot of money – compared to the…
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Three Tips To Save Money In Mediation
-One of the benefits of mediation is that clients save money – a lot of money – compared to the…
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The Alexander Group LLC – Mediation and Family Law
-The purpose of this blog is to offer information and support to people going through, or contemplating divorce. Rachel Alexander,…