Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
{3 minutes to read} Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to prevent trauma. Often this occurs…
Preventing Trauma – A Guide (Part II)
{4 minutes to read} Because trauma is painful, complex and difficult to resolve, what can we do to prevent it?…
What’s the Difference Between Hurt and Trauma? (Part I)
{4 minutes to read} What’s the difference between hurt and trauma and why do divorcing parents need to know? Hurt…
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 3
{5 minutes to read} The current series of blogs is exploring three frequently asked questions regarding alimony. This article discusses…
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 2
{3 minutes to read} The current series of blogs is exploring three frequently asked questions regarding alimony. This article discusses…
Making Sense of Alimony — Question 1
{8 minutes to read} Few words in the English language are as loathed as the word “alimony.” Perhaps bankruptcy and…
Are We as Modern as We Think? Gender Role Reversal in Divorce Doesn’t Necessarily Add Up.
{4 minutes to read} What happens when the father is the stay-at-home spouse and the mother is the primary earner?…
To See or Not to See: Discovery in Mediation
{6 minutes to read} In divorce mediation, there are some things that must never be cloaked in mystery or veiled…
Children: Damage by Divorce Is Not Mandated — Part 2
{4 minutes to read} Building on the recent blog series called Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make, this article turns…
Children: Damage by Divorce is Not Mandated
{3:30 minutes to read} A good divorce from a bad marriage may actually be better for children when the alternative…
Divorce Mediation: Respect, Privacy, and Necessary Disclosure
{5 minutes to read} As a mediator, there are subjects about which I would be remiss if I did not…
Mediating in Mystery
{3 minutes to read} How much personal information does your mediator need? Privacy Versus Transparency Every marriage is comprised of…
Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make — Mistake #3
The Third Mistake parents make is speaking negatively about one another in front of their child. Let me widen the…
Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make: Mistake #2
{3 minutes to read} Parents are tasked with becoming artful navigators. They must maintain the role of authority, decision-maker, and caretaker…
Three Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make — Mistake #1
{5 minutes to read} Both married and divorced parents are capable of good and terrible parenting, and most parenting mistakes…
Five Myths of Mediation
{6 minutes to read} There are 5 common misbeliefs about mediation that may be preventing divorcing people from accessing this…
Should Squirrels Have the Right of Way?
{6 minutes to read} A friend of mine told me a little story about a woman he knew who had…
Why NOT to Retell the War Stories of Your Marriage
{4 minutes to read} For your own peace of mind and happiness, when it comes to divorce, don’t get too…
What Robert Lee Can Teach Us About “ED” — And It Is Not What You Think
{6 minutes to read} Words that end in “ed” often come up in couples therapy and divorce — I feel…
Freedom From the Tyranny of Things
{5 minutes to read} The other night, I saw a movie called Minimalism, and as I sorted through the thousands…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 3
{3 minutes to read} “In heaven we have justice. Here on earth, we have law.” So said my Torts Professor,…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 2
{4:30 minutes to read} The Ramifications (and Rants) The conundrum: our legal system has two opposing principles. First: it encourages…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 1
{5 minutes to read} Not receiving the relief promised in your Judgment of Divorce (JOD)? Spouse still hasn’t paid the…
Focusing Attunement: The Inner Critic
In this attunement we’re going to experiment with a first, deliberate interaction with our inner critic. This…
How Could You Do That? The Inner Critic Speaks, and This Time We’re Listening
“What were you thinking? Did you just say that? Out loud?” {8 minutes to read} That’s not a nice way…