Five Myths of Mediation
{6 minutes to read} There are 5 common misbeliefs about mediation that may be preventing divorcing people from accessing this…
Should Squirrels Have the Right of Way?
{6 minutes to read} A friend of mine told me a little story about a woman he knew who had…
Why NOT to Retell the War Stories of Your Marriage
{4 minutes to read} For your own peace of mind and happiness, when it comes to divorce, don’t get too…
What Robert Lee Can Teach Us About “ED” — And It Is Not What You Think
{6 minutes to read} Words that end in “ed” often come up in couples therapy and divorce — I feel…
Freedom From the Tyranny of Things
{5 minutes to read} The other night, I saw a movie called Minimalism, and as I sorted through the thousands…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 3
{3 minutes to read} “In heaven we have justice. Here on earth, we have law.” So said my Torts Professor,…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 2
{4:30 minutes to read} The Ramifications (and Rants) The conundrum: our legal system has two opposing principles. First: it encourages…
Your Rights — Going Fast! Part 1
{5 minutes to read} Not receiving the relief promised in your Judgment of Divorce (JOD)? Spouse still hasn’t paid the…
Focusing Attunement: The Inner Critic
In this attunement we’re going to experiment with a first, deliberate interaction with our inner critic. This…
How Could You Do That? The Inner Critic Speaks, and This Time We’re Listening
“What were you thinking? Did you just say that? Out loud?” {8 minutes to read} That’s not a nice way…
Holiday First Aid for Hurt Hearts
{2 minutes to read} Divorce can reshape our holiday celebrations into something disordered, gloomy and sad. In the midst of…
Your Brain on Divorce
{4 minutes to read} The brain, dear brain, lights up with luminous ideas and cradles our treasured memories. That organ-control…
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Standing and Walking
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the second of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Sitting
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the first of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…
It’s Time for Another Paradigm Shift
{5 minutes to read} We don’t necessarily need victims in order to be heroes. In divorce, it’s quite typical to…
The New Face of Zealous Advocacy: Teamwork
{5:42 minutes to read} The new face of zealous advocacy could be teamwork. Teamwork! Background Recently, I served as counsel…
Does Your Attorney Fit Your Particular Genotype? Part II
{4:12 minutes to read} In my last blog , I looked at…
Does Your Attorney Fit Your Particular Genotype? Part I
{3:12 minutes to read} Lawyers are like organs. They come in all shapes and sizes and have a purpose. However,…
When it All Comes Down to the Blender: The Value of Personal Property in Divorce
{6 minutes to read} Personal property, furnishings and personality are typically encompassed by the objects that reside in marital (and…
Dissipation Revisited
{6:36 minutes to read} Dissipation occurs when one spouse spends marital funds on something that has nothing to do with…
Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part I
{3 minutes to read} What’s wonderful about focusing is that it can disabuse us of the misconception that ‘going in’…
“Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
{5 minutes to read} Part II picks up where we left off, providing the last three elements of how…
Positive Psychology
Balance the pH of Your Psyche with Positive Psychology and Focusing Positive psychology tells us that it only takes a…
Why Open the Door? And Why Do You Still Have that Hideous Bedspread?
{6 minutes to read} Avoidance. Numbing. Most of us are adept at coping through these mechanisms also called (by me…
Inner Architecture — The Resource of Your Own Imagination
Transcript of Attunement Just taking a moment to find a comfortable place to sit or stand. In this…