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Feel Better for Real
-Age-old, and New Age, wisdom tells us that you get what you focus on. It’s practically common knowledge that the…
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Trauma and Divorce: What Good Parents Need to Know (Part IV)
-{6 minutes to read} Why is the topic of trauma important in divorce? Why is it important to parents? What…
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Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
-{3 minutes to read} Words that Harm and Heal, Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to…
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What’s the Difference Between Hurt and Trauma? (Part I)
-{4 minutes to read} What’s the difference between hurt and trauma and why do divorcing parents need to know? Hurt…
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What Robert Lee Can Teach Us About “ED” — And It Is Not What You Think
-{6 minutes to read} Words that end in “ed” often come up in couples therapy and divorce — I feel…
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Focusing Attunement: The Inner Critic
-In this attunement we’re going to experiment with a first, deliberate interaction with our inner critic. This…
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How Could You Do That? The Inner Critic Speaks, and This Time We’re Listening
-“What were you thinking? Did you just say that? Out loud?” {8 minutes to read} That’s not a nice way…
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Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Standing and Walking
-{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the second of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…
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Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Sitting
-{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the first of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…
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Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part I
-{3 minutes to read} What’s wonderful about focusing is that it can disabuse us of the misconception that ‘going in’…
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“Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
-{5 minutes to read} Part II picks up where we left off, providing the last three elements of how…
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Positive Psychology
-Balance the pH of Your Psyche with Positive Psychology and Focusing Positive psychology tells us that it only takes a…
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Why Open the Door? And Why Do You Still Have that Hideous Bedspread?
-{6 minutes to read} Avoidance. Numbing. Most of us are adept at coping through these mechanisms also called (by me…
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Inner Architecture — The Resource of Your Own Imagination
-Transcript of Attunement Just taking a moment to find a comfortable place to sit or stand. In this…
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A 3-Minute Attunement (Reconnecting Within)
-{2:30 minutes to read} 3-Minute Attunement Transcription Let’s begin by just slowing down. Finding a comfortable seat. Coming…
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Pathology Pointing: Why it Doesn’t Work in Divorce
-What is the difference between Pollyannaism and a Balanced Realism Approach? {4:36 minutes to read} Pathology Pointing Our western medical…
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The “We Space”
-{4:12 minutes to read} The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship.…
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Mindfulness and Mediation
-{3:30 minutes to read} In some spiritual practices, a bell sounds several times a day calling the observant to prayer.…
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Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered
-{5:06 minutes to read} Let’s lift the blind on blame. If blame had a whistle blower, what would he say?…
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Curiosity: The Little Word that Could
-{5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the…
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Validation—How We Speak Is How We Love
-{4:24 minutes to read} There is a saying that goes, “In heaven, there’s no talking, because men invented heaven.” OK,…