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Communication
Conflict Unusual — A New Way Forward, Together
April 15, 2021 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
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Focusing
Feel Better for Real
November 25, 2020 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Age-old, and New Age, wisdom tells us that you get what you focus on. It’s practically common knowledge that the…

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Communication
Trauma and Divorce: What Good Parents Need to Know (Part IV)
December 18, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Why is the topic of trauma important in divorce? Why is it important to parents? What…

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Children
Words that Harm and Words that Heal (Part III)
December 4, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} Words that Harm and Heal, Even well-meaning caregivers can miss or botch a critical opportunity to…

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Divorce
Preventing Trauma – A Guide (Part II)
November 18, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} Because trauma is painful, complex and difficult to resolve, what can we do to prevent it?…

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Divorce
What’s the Difference Between Hurt and Trauma? (Part I)
October 31, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} What’s the difference between hurt and trauma and why do divorcing parents need to know? Hurt…

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Communication
What Robert Lee Can Teach Us About “ED” — And It Is Not What You Think
March 7, 2019 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Words that end in “ed” often come up in couples therapy and divorce — I feel…

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Focusing
Focusing Attunement: The Inner Critic
December 12, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
In this attunement we’re going to experiment with a first, deliberate interaction with our inner critic. This…

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Focusing
How Could You Do That? The Inner Critic Speaks, and This Time We’re Listening
November 28, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
“What were you thinking? Did you just say that? Out loud?” {8 minutes to read} That’s not a nice way…

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Focusing
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Standing and Walking
October 23, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the second of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…

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Focusing
Focusing Attunement: The 5 Foundations — Sitting
October 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4 minutes to read} It’s my pleasure to share the first of two attunements from a dear Focusing colleague, Jocelyn…

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Focusing
Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part I
June 6, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3 minutes to read} What’s wonderful about focusing is that it can disabuse us of the misconception that ‘going in’…

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Focusing
“Going In” Doesn’t Mean Going Deep – Part II
June 5, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5 minutes to read} Part II picks up where we left off, providing the last three elements of how…

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Focusing
Positive Psychology
May 23, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Balance the pH of Your Psyche with Positive Psychology and Focusing Positive psychology tells us that it only takes a…

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Focusing
Why Open the Door? And Why Do You Still Have that Hideous Bedspread?
May 10, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{6 minutes to read} Avoidance. Numbing. Most of us are adept at coping through these mechanisms also called (by me…

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Focusing General Well-Being
Inner Architecture — The Resource of Your Own Imagination
April 26, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
Transcript of Attunement Just taking a moment to find a comfortable place to sit or stand. In this…

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Focusing
A 3-Minute Attunement (Reconnecting Within)
March 26, 2018 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{2:30 minutes to read} 3-Minute Attunement Transcription Let’s begin by just slowing down. Finding a comfortable seat. Coming…

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Communication
Pathology Pointing: Why it Doesn’t Work in Divorce
December 5, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
What is the difference between Pollyannaism and a Balanced Realism Approach? {4:36 minutes to read} Pathology Pointing Our western medical…

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Divorce
The “We Space”
October 24, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:12 minutes to read} The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship.…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and “Self-in-Presence”: A Tool for Divorce Mediation?
October 11, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:18 minutes to read} How do we get present? Last time we looked at the importance of mindfulness and getting…

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Focusing
Mindfulness and Mediation
October 3, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{3:30 minutes to read} In some spiritual practices, a bell sounds several times a day calling the observant to prayer.…

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Divorce
Blame – Divorce’s Unfriendly Bedfellow Uncovered
September 7, 2017 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:06 minutes to read} Let’s lift the blind on blame. If blame had a whistle blower, what would he say?…

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Focusing
Curiosity: The Little Word that Could
November 22, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the…

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Communication
Validation—How We Speak Is How We Love
May 17, 2016 - by Rachel Alexander, Esq.
{4:24 minutes to read} There is a saying that goes, “In heaven, there’s no talking, because men invented heaven.” OK,…

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