What Distinguishes Rachel From Other Mediators
As a professional divorce mediator and family law attorney in NJ, Rachel Alexander is a mediator first and attorney second. Before any of that, she is a person, of course, and one who has experienced divorce and its inherent losses and disruptions first hand.
She is passionate about supporting her clients through this critical, life changing event. Rachel studied social work at Columbia University in New York City prior to entering law school. This education provided her a deep appreciation for the family system and what developing children need in order to grow into high-functioning adults.
Quite a few non-attorneys and family law attorneys in NJ call themselves mediators, but unfortunately, to acquire this title, one is only required to have had 40 hours of mediation training. Many family law attorneys who claim to be mediators have had only the minimum training and mediate only rarely.
These attorneys view mediation as a side business or resume add on—litigation is their primary focus as it is their primary training and is unquestionably more profitable for them. Large firms with big overheads are incentivized to litigate where they can bill significantly more to each client. (A mediated divorce costs about a quarter of the price of even a fairly simple, contested divorce.)
How Rachel Practices Mediation
Listening fully to clients and honoring what is occurring with them, both externally and internally, is central to how Rachel practices mediation. By honoring her clients’ experience, priorities and values, she helps them discover solutions that work for them. Constantly aiming to improve her capacity to help, Rachel continues her education in related areas that enhance her practice.
“This therapeutic modality, developed through collaboration between psychologists Carl Rogers and Eugene Gendlin, began through work analysing why some clients got better from talk therapy while others did not benefit, even after years of consistent treatment.
The training was developed to enable all people to learn the process that the clients who got well did innately. Practitioners are trained so they can more profoundly listen to clients and help them identify their essential, current needs and make changes from this vast (hitherto inaccessible) information.
The practitioner deals in the here and now, rather than a historic narrative and intellectual analysis. Changes happen in the moment.”
An Alternative To The Adversarial Litigation System
The difference between mediation and litigation is a bit like the difference between undergoing a minimally invasive laparoscopic procedure and enduring a civil war era surgery—the former is aimed at protecting the integrity of the system and encouraging swift recovery; the later can be mutilating and devastating (click here to see why we vehemently recommend against litigation).
As a professional divorce mediator and family law attorney in NJ, Ms. Alexander is acquainted with the adversarial litigation system. She fully understands the destructive effects and exorbitant costs to clients subjected to the rigors of a contested divorce.
She is committed to protecting clients from the emotional, psychological, and even physical toll that an adversarial divorce can take.
Before even entering law school, Ms. Alexander determined she would be a mediator and focused her professional education accordingly. For Ms. Alexander, mediation is her absolute point of focus. Many of Ms. Alexander’s clients end the mediation process with a sense of true resolution, and even gratitude.
Rachel is one of the few mediation attorneys in NJ who dedicates her practice to mediation.
A Professional Divorce Mediator and Family Law Attorney In NJ With Thousands of Hours of Experience
From the moment she began her law school career in 2000, Ms. Alexander focused on mediation.
At Benjamin Cardozo School of Law at Yeshiva University, from where she received her Juris Doctorate, Ms. Alexander participated in the extensive alternative dispute resolution curriculum.
Ms. Alexander was competitively selected to attend the prestigious Kukin Clinic, co-founded Cardozo’s ABA accredited Alternative Dispute Resolution Society, and co-created an Introduction to Conflict Resolution program for school children. Ms. Alexander completed her studies as a visiting student at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, TN and went on to become an experienced professional divorce mediator and family law attorney in NJ.
In 2008 Rachel Alexander, Esq. founded Alexander Mediation Group to serve couples throughout New Jersey and New York facing separation or divorce. In 2011, Rachel became the director of The Center for Mediation Solutions in Metuchen, New Jersey and began an affiliation with The Center for Mediation & Training of New York, New York.
More Than Just Mediation—Founded on a Comprehensive, Extensive Education and Centered Around Empathy and Appreciation for the Complex Human Experience
Ms. Alexander has always been passionate about helping others, even before becoming one of the most highly regarded professional divorce mediators and family law attorneys in NJ.
Before attending law school, Ms. Alexander studied at Columbia University School of Social Work. Her studies of family systems, early childhood development, personality development and disorders, and the effects of crisis and trauma on individuals and families was instrumental in her becoming an effective professional divorce mediator and family law attorney.
Ms. Alexander received her BA In English Literature from Barnard College of Columbia University, where she graduated magna cum laude. Additionally, she received her MFA in Dramatic Arts from The Actors Studio.
As a professional divorce mediator and family law attorney in NJ, she is also admitted to the practice of law in New York and Maryland. A court appointed mediator on the New Jersey family and civil rosters, Ms. Alexander is a member of the New Jersey State Bar Association, Morris County Bar Association, New York State Bar Association, Independent Ombuds Services, founding member of the Academy of Professional Family Mediators, member of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, and served on the Nominating Committee of the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators.
A Commitment to You and Your Wellness
Alexander Mediation Group is dedicated to mediation as the most effective way to resolve conflicts and create futures of integrity.
Ms. Alexander focuses on the wellness of the family as a whole in addition to the wellness of the individuals she serves. As a professional divorce mediator and family law attorney in NJ, she considers it her pleasure and privilege to work with couples during this important and demanding time.
Ms. Alexander is the only mediator who offers a monthly support group to clients and the community alike. When going through her own divorce, and unable to locate such a group, she vowed to create one so divorcing people could come together and benefit from this necessary, complementary resource.
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